Last week I met up with an ex who was reminded me of the frolics and woes of lesbian dating. She told me of a girl who she was seeing but was 'too nice' and therefore didn't get the juices flowing, and another who was exciting but somewhat unattainable.
It reminded me of a conversation myself and my partner had at the beginning of our relationship, when discussing the pitfalls of lesbians dating, there is no middle ground. Lesbians seem to be either full on or completely switched off. Likewise, they are cute and lovely, but frankly dull, whereas others are exciting and outgoing but cant hold a relationship down for love nor money.
Ironically, I believe that my ex was one of these unattainable creatures. She was someone I always longed to have but never really did. When we managed to venture into a relationship (instigated by her, I may add) she never really seemed to open up- physically or mentally. Whether this was due to fear of being hurt or simply wanting to play the field I'll never know.
It has got me thinking about sexual chemistry and dating. We all know the cliche of wanting what we cant have but is this really true? Are we so self-destructive that we crave something that will eventually cause us pain? Conversely, if we were given everything on a plate would it really be fun? I know I for one enjoy the chase.
I do however, remember a time when the chase was probably the most frustrating thing on earth. Doing the 'why hasn't she text dance' and 'what, oh what does that mean' ritual did eventually become somewhat boring after a time. And there's the biggest irony. The chase eventually becomes boring too.
So ladies, if you are reading this, listen up. Give us something to aim for, but don't keep us hanging on too long eh.
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