Are lesbians more forward these days?

Is it just me or are lesbians more forward these days?  I swear I've had more attention in the past month then I have had in the few years Ive been out.

Take the other day for example.  I was entering work and a young woman was holding the lift open for me.  I was so far from the lift she could have easily carried on her journey.  However, she went out of her way to hold the door open and beckon me in.  Once in, I thanked her.  Looking up, I saw a attractive young gay woman.  I knew she was gay not because she fits the stereotype, but because I felt the vibe.  We chatted casually and I got off at my floor, still talking as the lift door closed.

Yesterday I wandered into the toilets and she was in there washing her hands.  We struck up a conversation and she asked me to lunch.  "That would be great but.." I started,  "You've got a girlfriend haven't you?" she chipped in.  "Well yes" I admitted "I was going to say I've got a lot of meetings today."  "Ah" she smiled "Oh well, I thought it was worth asking." "Thanks, I appreciate it" I smiled back.  Then she was gone.

This got me thinking about forwardness and reflecting upon how I react to people who have confidence and guts. I like people who have the confidence to put themselves out there and take a risk, its sexy.  There was one time however when I was shocked by someones forwardness.  This occurred a year or so ago when I was in Revenge, having just split up from an ex.  I started chatting to a girl at the bar and she offered to buy me a drink.  We drank up and went for a dance.  Happily dancing away, moving closer and closer, we leaned in to kiss.  The moment we started kissing she grabbed my crotch.  Literally, the moment our lips touched her hand was there, stroking me.  It wasn't even subtle either, it was aggressive.  Uncomfortably so.

I'm not a prude but I was shocked.  Having been off the scene for a few months, I wondered if this was the 'in' thing and now socially acceptable.  Buying a girl a drink now equals PDA's of the highest form.

I decided it was best to withdraw from the kiss and tell her I was heading to the toilets.  Once there, I decided it was time to leave; it was late anyway and I'd lost my friends.  I surreptitiously headed out of the club, glancing back to see her waiting for me on the dance floor.  I felt bad leaving her there waiting for me, but I didn't want to swap numbers or go home with her but equally I didn't want to lie to her face.

On the way home I started thinking about why I had reacted so strongly.  I'm not a prude after all and had just split up from someone, so would have relished the attention.  However, the aggressiveness of her action (if she was that aggressive on the dance floor, I imagined she'd be doubly as so in the bedroom and that somewhat scared me), coupled with her forwardness put me off.  I like to build up to a situation, even if its just a fondle and a snog.

Realistically I like a forward thinking woman, a woman who can express her mind and her body and who isn't afraid to display her passion. I respect an honest woman, one who tells me how she feels about me and whispers in my ear what she'd like to do to me.  Confidence is a turn on and hugely outweighs an attractive face or buff body.  However, I do have some social boundaries and I think groping someones crotch before you have even kissed them properly is mine.